When we were discussing the birth plan for our baby girl Gracen, he was very adamant on 'not being in the room' and he was dead serious about it. Danyelle of course, stepped up to the plate and said she would accompany me in the room.
She was in the room when her brother was born (her dad was in Iraq), so she was an old hat in the matter. Although I was relieved our daughter would be in the room, I was truly upset that my husband was opting out of what was the most important and beautiful events in our family.
When it was time to pass on the information to my doctor, I was a bit hesitant and embarrassed to say my husband, the father of my children, the person that vowed to stick with me through the good and bad times would NOT be in the delivery room.
I was very upset when he told me of his decision and I couldn't understand his rationale about the situation at all. My doctor in all of her wisdom calmed my anxiety and said the most important part of this birth will be that I remain calm and stress free.
She then went on to explain that there have been instances where husbands have been removed from the room because of fainting and other instances that would interfere or stall the birthing process. She thought he was right in knowing what his limits were before the big day and suggested that we just move forward with the plan that was in place.
It's true, he fainted on the day Danyelle was being born but, come on now, that was over 20 years ago, you're older, wiser and stronger. He begged to differ and with that, I decided to drop the subject.
Whenever the topic of the birthdate would come up, I resisted the urge to BEG him to reconsider his decision to opt out of the delivery room. The day of Gracen's birth, I got up as usual and woke Danyelle up to drive me to the hospital.
While we were getting dressed for the day, my husband gets dressed and starts packing up the car. You know I stood there wondering exactly what was going on. I didn't say much. I didn't feel like getting into any deep conversations and besides it was a big day and the last thing I needed was to become stressed or worried.
He drove me to the hospital and was in the delivery room to witness our sweet baby girl Gracen being born. He said, he wouldn't have missed this day for anything in the world. I asked why he strung me along for so long, he said because he wanted to see if I would break under pressure and how I would respond.
Say What??????? Why are you trying to play with my emotions? You know pregnant women need stress free environments!
As my sweet Granny would have said, Baaaaby don't you worry about UH-thang! Keep on keepin' on!---
I am so proud I decided to Let Go and Let God.
Well, needless to say, my husband said I should have known that he wouldn't have missed the chance to see his baby being born for anything in the world.
All I could say was THANK YOU JESUS!!! and then, I punched his arm for stringing me along for all that time.
Boy you play too much!
Question: Has your spouse ever played a trick on you or strung you along only to surprise you later on with a favorable outcome?
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I can't say that Vic has ever done that but it would be in his nature to string me along like that.
Dang! He got you good, girl! Like he said, though, you should have known! ;-) Did you hit him hard? LOL
My husband is the master of doing that to me with EVERYTHING! I guess it's just best to accept his ways and just know deep down inside that he always steps up to the plate. It does irk me though. I can see how you would have felt so bad though wen it is at the end of your pregnancy and you were getting ready to go on and have a C-section which is not the most fun thing in the world!
I wouldn't have Been able to keep my cool. I woulda fussed like crazy!
uhhh no. Why? Cuz my hubby knows I don't take to well to "playing" - thus he doesn't "joke" with me that way, cuz that's how we'll end up in divorce court. He leaves that stuff for other folks. *chuckle*
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