If your teenage daughter hid her pregnancy from you and gave birth to the baby in the shower, walked to the local hospital to have the cord and placenta removed, what would you do?
There isn't really much you could do. I would be upset that she kept it a secret and pprobably did not get pre-natal care. I had a friend in H.S. that hid her pregnancy. She was thin as a rail, so I don't know how she managed. One day, we were all goin out and she said she had a headache and needed to go to the hospital. For a headache? She gave birth that day. Totally freaked us all out!
I think I'd feel bad about our relationship. It would hurt me to think that my child would hide something like that for me. I'd hug her and let her know that I am here for her and that I love her.
yeah, i would be worried that my children felt like they couldn't talk to me about problems that they were having, and that they didn't have any adults they trusted that they could talk to. a lot worse things could happen. i think a lot of parents threaten really bad things (if you do this, i'll x--if i ever find you pregnant, i'll kick you out of my house)so kids (esp daughters) are afraid to talk to them. that's too bad but it's good to see that they are going to take care of each other.
It would be hard to come back from this, the parent/child relationship would be strained to say the least. However, I know in my heart I would be sad for her, after getting over being angry. The thought of her having to go through this all alone, how scared she had to be and then knowing she had been stressed for the last 9 months. We as parents want to fix everything for our children, this is that thing that slaps us in the face and says, "we can't protected them from themselves" no matter how hard we might try.
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There isn't really much you could do. I would be upset that she kept it a secret and pprobably did not get pre-natal care. I had a friend in H.S. that hid her pregnancy. She was thin as a rail, so I don't know how she managed. One day, we were all goin out and she said she had a headache and needed to go to the hospital. For a headache? She gave birth that day. Totally freaked us all out!
I think I'd feel bad about our relationship. It would hurt me to think that my child would hide something like that for me. I'd hug her and let her know that I am here for her and that I love her.
yeah, i would be worried that my children felt like they couldn't talk to me about problems that they were having, and that they didn't have any adults they trusted that they could talk to. a lot worse things could happen. i think a lot of parents threaten really bad things (if you do this, i'll x--if i ever find you pregnant, i'll kick you out of my house)so kids (esp daughters) are afraid to talk to them. that's too bad but it's good to see that they are going to take care of each other.
It would be hard to come back from this, the parent/child relationship would be strained to say the least. However, I know in my heart I would be sad for her, after getting over being angry. The thought of her having to go through this all alone, how scared she had to be and then knowing she had been stressed for the last 9 months. We as parents want to fix everything for our children, this is that thing that slaps us in the face and says, "we can't protected them from themselves" no matter how hard we might try.
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